Mom, but why an elephant more than a camel?», «Why is dandelion yellow?», «Why is a rabbit long ears and short tail?» - A curiosity of a son or daughter initially heartened by the parents, giving birth to their rightful pride for their child. And the adults are trying to match - see the encyclopedia, asked the experts to explain in detail to the Smart in the world child, why the plane takes off and does not ship sinks into the sea. But matters do not stop, and parental enthusiasm gradually fading under the pressure of the new «why», which becomes impossible to answer. «Mom, why garlic smells like sausage? Why is the night when the light turned off? Why mumps not wash the car? »Gradually, the child becomes excessive curiosity of this torture for mothers and fathers who are no longer able to answer many questions. What to do in this case? How to react and act? First of all, do not boggle. Your child doros to the interesting, funny and unforgettable age - «age pochemuchek». Try to understand your own child.
Hope Yurgina
Psychologist
Interesting for children ages
When and why the baby from becoming concentrated in the silent man interested in all the world garrulity fidget? Typically, such a period falls on a research child age - from 3 to 5 years. It was at this time the child has a "gargantuan appetite to the knowledge of the world. He was interested in absolutely everything. Questions syplyutsya as a horn of plenty, zastigaya parents by surprise and often baffle unintelligible child logic.
How does an adult in this situation? He either tries to honestly answer the questions or by using various tricks away from the answer, take refuge in silence, referring to the "next", by all means try to avoid the reply "I do not know," the authority of the parent drop in children's eyes. But such gimmicks are unlikely to work. If you try to keep silent, baby will not rest until you hear the answer to your question. Try to argue and then "Pochemuchka, false feeling, ask a lot of additional issues that require simple explanations. Do not think that it is familiar only to your family. Remember "Little Prince", where Antoine de Saint-Exupéry with ease and showed the essence of love "pochemuchnogo" states:
"Asking some question, little prince has not receded, yet did not receive a response. Unamenable screw me out of patience, and I replied at random:
- Thorns nor for what is not needed, the flowers produce them simply because of anger.
There was silence. Then he said, almost angrily:
- I do not believe you! "
Features children's logic
Very interestingly, in terms of verbal expression, the beginning of the period. The child does not immediately begin to ask questions: "Why?" and "how?" Initially, he was cautious, as if to himself notes interesting facts to him. More often than not makes a pipsqueak voice is quiet and easy intonation of surprise: "Strange is a dog - very white, and black head. Maybe in the paint has fallen, but it can razrisoval who, as it may itself ...." As if a kid and did not expect from an adult, no explanation. And if such an explanation comes, it seems like, and do not listen to them. Just watch and notes some incomprehensible strangeness. These thoughts about the world and is the first, has not yet been announced, "Why?" Simply, he hopes that you can understand a hint and accidentally answer a question nezadanny. But the indecisive softness while.
But with each passing day baby is becoming more and more persistent, demanding the necessary explanations. He asks questions and waits for answers, because it wants to, no, demands that you recognize it and the adults talked with him seriously, truthfully and without syusyukanya - for a child it is very important. Therefore, answers should be as simple and accessible children's understanding.
In addition, parents must show patience, kindness and constant willingness to answer questions. After all, "Pochemuchka" demanding and rebellious. They want to know everything, here and now. They take offense if you are silent and angry, if you're lying. They bespardonno, forgetting about the investment good manners, distracting from the adult cases. Assigned to them calmly and respectfully: the persistence - is nothing but a desire to convey that there is now little man occupied the most important thing in the world - study of the world, trying to penetrate the device and its essence, to know the mystery of objects, words, events and developments . At this age, children pass through the nature of life itself, through his own perception.
Cognitive activity of the child like a tornado, growing, drawing everything into its study of the world. The rapidly evolving thinking, striking and unexpected findings of single-mindedness. From a geometric progression updated vocabulary, children playfully samples will sound like the words in a grammatical form. They easily combine nesochetaemoe illusionist, fontaniruya interesting, creative solutions. Fantasy at this age is so rapidly that parents are often criticized for their children in the concoction of what is actually there.
What should be the parents' reaction?
Do not offend "Pochemuchka" their distrust. Better pofantaziruyte together, and you'll get endless pleasure, returning to the world of childhood, where thought is free and can take any form and to create any magical worlds.
Be sure to appreciate the efforts of "Pochemuchka" to find and explain their understanding of the world. Now a little dull practice that manipulates objects, it has become a great scientist and theorist thinking! He expects you to science! Discussion! Sensations! It is very important to the parent's participation in this exciting process. But if you can not make it to the company, baby is not lost: he will leave to explore the world independently. In the search for truth researcher deal alarm clock, radio or the vacuum cleaner up to the last screw, loop power, visit everywhere - from the attic and basement to the distant woods.
To understand and help "Pochemuchka" mom and father should again become a child. This should never infringe on its interests. The kid should be seen as he himself became so big and clever. And you should see the world through the eyes of his. Include in this game. Indeed, without the support of a pipsqueak will not be able to be confident in the correctness of its conclusions. Stimulates the child, encourage cognitive activity, and do not forget to praise, to show their respect. Now more than ever, it is important to tell them taken seriously. So baby will feel its significance.